I copy this parable from the book "Boy meets Girl"
When we guide romance with wisdom, we have skillful romance - romance that is directed by what is true about God and about the world He has made.
Relationship between wisdom and romance is like the one between a string and a kite.
Romantic love is the kite that catches the wind and tenaciously heads for the sky.
Wisdom is the string that tugs downward holding it back.
The tension is real but healthy.
I suppose there are times when a kite feels tied down by the string.
"If this bothersome string would just let go of me, I could fly really high. " the kite might think.
But that isn't true. Without the string holding it in the face of the wind, the kite would quickly come crashing to the ground.
Romance without wisdom will soon take a nosedive. It becomes selfish, indulgent and even idolatrous.
It's not enough to simply have romantic feelings. Long lasting romance needs practical, commonsense wisdom that knows when to let the wind of feelings carry us higher and when to pull back.
Tuesday, May 30, 2006
Chapter 1, LEARN FROM THE MISTAKES AND MOVE FORWARD
We realized that we have been in a fast track. The reasons are many.
It can be the excitement for us to experience relationship for the first time, or our prayer life is not as strong as before, or we express our affection overly to each other.
Though it's not superb big mistakes, we have bad impacts in our life.
We are feeling guilty toward each other and God, we don't spare time to our close friends.
Well, it is the learning process especially for brand new couple.
It has many trials and errors how to make the relationship is working according to what it should be.
Anyway, On top of that, I am giving thanks to God.
He has given me this beautiful gift...a lovely relationship...that I am dreaming of when I was in the waiting process.
And also He has brought a gentleman who has a kind and warmed heart and heart that always hungry and thirst to God.
He respects and treats me as a princess. It's really an honour for me.
Well, I also give thanks to God since He intervenes this relationship. He knows that we are new and have no experience at all. He let us make mistakes but give us an united heart and Holy Spirit to guide and remind us. Even, He remind us through our friends and community and our parents.
We have opened and confessed to each other and we have made new steps for our goodness sake.
We will behave like best friend, we will give each other a space to grow and we will spend a time to pray together every week to strengthen our prayer life.
I believe with this new journey, we will get many clashes since our expectation may be different from one another.
But it will shape our character how to understand and put no expectation towards each other and try to be independent yet dependent.
Thanks God...for first lesson given to us.
A man's wisdom gives him patience (Proverbs 19 : 11)
Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires (Song of Song 8:4)
It can be the excitement for us to experience relationship for the first time, or our prayer life is not as strong as before, or we express our affection overly to each other.
Though it's not superb big mistakes, we have bad impacts in our life.
We are feeling guilty toward each other and God, we don't spare time to our close friends.
Well, it is the learning process especially for brand new couple.
It has many trials and errors how to make the relationship is working according to what it should be.
Anyway, On top of that, I am giving thanks to God.
He has given me this beautiful gift...a lovely relationship...that I am dreaming of when I was in the waiting process.
And also He has brought a gentleman who has a kind and warmed heart and heart that always hungry and thirst to God.
He respects and treats me as a princess. It's really an honour for me.
Well, I also give thanks to God since He intervenes this relationship. He knows that we are new and have no experience at all. He let us make mistakes but give us an united heart and Holy Spirit to guide and remind us. Even, He remind us through our friends and community and our parents.
We have opened and confessed to each other and we have made new steps for our goodness sake.
We will behave like best friend, we will give each other a space to grow and we will spend a time to pray together every week to strengthen our prayer life.
I believe with this new journey, we will get many clashes since our expectation may be different from one another.
But it will shape our character how to understand and put no expectation towards each other and try to be independent yet dependent.
Thanks God...for first lesson given to us.
A man's wisdom gives him patience (Proverbs 19 : 11)
Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires (Song of Song 8:4)
Sunday, May 28, 2006
REFLECTION
It has been less than 3 weeks of our journey. However, sometimes I feel that our journey is like more than 3 years.
Honestly, until now I don't understand what God's plan for us with this relationship. Well, I believe that this relationship is God's gift and He wants us to give Glory to Him.
Indeed, I feel that it doesn't bring me closer to God. I don't know whether this is what supposed to be in the first time.
Yes, this is my first experience in relationship so I need to figure it out what things need to be done and not to be done to please Him.
We have an ideal relationship in our mind, but the reality is different from the ideal one. I am just wondering what I am supposed to do...
I read the book " Boy meets Girl " by Joshua Harris.
The book is good, he shares the guideline of courtship and a lot of success stories from the book.
Sometimes I am just wondering how they struggle in the first time when they were in relationship. I believe they also struggled how to control themselves to be pure in mind, soul, body and sexual and how they can sacrifice themselves for the happiness of others.
One thing I give thanks to God eventhough I don't understand what His plan for us now is the message Love is not blind, He still gives me wisdom to think, learn what is right and what is wrong and how to move on.
Holy Spirit still gives me courage and reminder for us.
Thank you Lord and Holy Spirit. We believe in Your guidance.
Let Your wisdom, love, joy and peace surround us and fill our cup with those so we can be obedience and faithfull to You and our commitment.
Let Your glory reflected in us
Honestly, until now I don't understand what God's plan for us with this relationship. Well, I believe that this relationship is God's gift and He wants us to give Glory to Him.
Indeed, I feel that it doesn't bring me closer to God. I don't know whether this is what supposed to be in the first time.
Yes, this is my first experience in relationship so I need to figure it out what things need to be done and not to be done to please Him.
We have an ideal relationship in our mind, but the reality is different from the ideal one. I am just wondering what I am supposed to do...
I read the book " Boy meets Girl " by Joshua Harris.
The book is good, he shares the guideline of courtship and a lot of success stories from the book.
Sometimes I am just wondering how they struggle in the first time when they were in relationship. I believe they also struggled how to control themselves to be pure in mind, soul, body and sexual and how they can sacrifice themselves for the happiness of others.
One thing I give thanks to God eventhough I don't understand what His plan for us now is the message Love is not blind, He still gives me wisdom to think, learn what is right and what is wrong and how to move on.
Holy Spirit still gives me courage and reminder for us.
Thank you Lord and Holy Spirit. We believe in Your guidance.
Let Your wisdom, love, joy and peace surround us and fill our cup with those so we can be obedience and faithfull to You and our commitment.
Let Your glory reflected in us
Friday, May 19, 2006
Keeper of The Stars
I still remember how I accidentally found this song and somehow it made me thinking further if I someday could sing this song, with the true facts for sure... Now, this lovely song is no longer merely a song for me as I know that every single line of it was representing what I feel in the deepest of my heart...
~ Davin ~
Keeper of The Stars (by: Tracy Byrd)
It was no accident... me finding you...
Someone had a hand in it... long before we ever knew...
Now I just can't believe... you're in my life...
Heaven's smiling down on me... as I look at you tonight...
Soft moonlight on your face... oh, how you shine...
It takes my breath away... just to look into your eyes...
I know that I don't deserve... a treasure like you...
There really are no words... to show my gratitude...
I tip my hat... to the keeper of the stars...
He sure knew what he was doing... when He joined these two hearts...
I hold everything... when I hold you in my arms...
And I've got all I'll ever need... thanks to the keeper of the stars...
Through this song, I was reminded one more time for all the hopes and wishes that I have left far far away in my past, as I thought it was only a dream in this real world, is actually brought back into my life... I have forgotten how long it was the last time I sing this song for I thought it will never be real... Thanks God for one of the sweetest gift in my life... when I gave it up, You never give up on me!
~ Davin ~
Keeper of The Stars (by: Tracy Byrd)
It was no accident... me finding you...
Someone had a hand in it... long before we ever knew...
Now I just can't believe... you're in my life...
Heaven's smiling down on me... as I look at you tonight...
Soft moonlight on your face... oh, how you shine...
It takes my breath away... just to look into your eyes...
I know that I don't deserve... a treasure like you...
There really are no words... to show my gratitude...
I tip my hat... to the keeper of the stars...
He sure knew what he was doing... when He joined these two hearts...
I hold everything... when I hold you in my arms...
And I've got all I'll ever need... thanks to the keeper of the stars...
Through this song, I was reminded one more time for all the hopes and wishes that I have left far far away in my past, as I thought it was only a dream in this real world, is actually brought back into my life... I have forgotten how long it was the last time I sing this song for I thought it will never be real... Thanks God for one of the sweetest gift in my life... when I gave it up, You never give up on me!
Thursday, May 18, 2006
When God writes our love story
From the title When God writes my love story, I want to change it to When God writes our love story...
When we just started our relationship, I was a bit nervous and afraid..if I was wrong about him and if he was indifference with other guys who like to exploit girls for their enjoyment.
But from the process, I found out that he's different from others...
He respects me as a woman and God's gift and he never wants to let me down.
I am really touched...and my faith increases that he's the one God brings for me.
I hope in this journey...we open to each other and to be honest and love each other unconditionally.
The important thing is putting God's love in the centre of our relationship.
Besides, I just have a simple prayer request everyday that we are able to keep our purity of our mind, heart and body as a living sacrifice to God until the time comes when He unites and blesses us forever...
And also we will be faithfull and perseverance in any circumstances, in good and bad times, in sickness and health.
Thanks God for this beautiful gift which I was waiting patiently for 12 years.
" With real love nothing else matters, without it nothing is enough "
When we just started our relationship, I was a bit nervous and afraid..if I was wrong about him and if he was indifference with other guys who like to exploit girls for their enjoyment.
But from the process, I found out that he's different from others...
He respects me as a woman and God's gift and he never wants to let me down.
I am really touched...and my faith increases that he's the one God brings for me.
I hope in this journey...we open to each other and to be honest and love each other unconditionally.
The important thing is putting God's love in the centre of our relationship.
Besides, I just have a simple prayer request everyday that we are able to keep our purity of our mind, heart and body as a living sacrifice to God until the time comes when He unites and blesses us forever...
And also we will be faithfull and perseverance in any circumstances, in good and bad times, in sickness and health.
Thanks God for this beautiful gift which I was waiting patiently for 12 years.
" With real love nothing else matters, without it nothing is enough "
The beginning of new mission - May 10th
Finally... I found someone...
He's a simple person whom God has prepared for some years. He is my answered prayer for some years. I never expect that he's the one God has chosen for me...
When I remembered and looked back my love story, I amaze how God has written beautiful love story for me.
Starting from broken heart, hopeless, and traumatic, God shaped my life. This was a hardship and struggling to trust in God's plan. Until finally, He revealed the truth about Unconditional love. Well, that's not the end but it's the beginning. He allowed me to love someone who really beyond my expectation. He asked me to love him unconditionally regardless whether he will be mine or not.
And yes, it's really struggling especially when he's with another woman in front of me.
I felt like carrying the cross and indeed I tried to pray for her. But God never left me alone, He always comforted and encouraged me until the time has come.
Along the way, I have faith that God has provided something beautiful and something good will happen soon.
Yes, it's true....when the time has come...
He brought me to the gentleman who may not be noticed by anybody...
What amazed me was we had the same vision and purpose for our life....
Oh ya another thing is God has revealed the truth how to be a white lily among the torns when I read Authentic Beauty book.
Thanks God...on May 10th was the time we started our relationship.
This was beginning for His mission to use our relationship for His glory and blessing for people surround us....
He's a simple person whom God has prepared for some years. He is my answered prayer for some years. I never expect that he's the one God has chosen for me...
When I remembered and looked back my love story, I amaze how God has written beautiful love story for me.
Starting from broken heart, hopeless, and traumatic, God shaped my life. This was a hardship and struggling to trust in God's plan. Until finally, He revealed the truth about Unconditional love. Well, that's not the end but it's the beginning. He allowed me to love someone who really beyond my expectation. He asked me to love him unconditionally regardless whether he will be mine or not.
And yes, it's really struggling especially when he's with another woman in front of me.
I felt like carrying the cross and indeed I tried to pray for her. But God never left me alone, He always comforted and encouraged me until the time has come.
Along the way, I have faith that God has provided something beautiful and something good will happen soon.
Yes, it's true....when the time has come...
He brought me to the gentleman who may not be noticed by anybody...
What amazed me was we had the same vision and purpose for our life....
Oh ya another thing is God has revealed the truth how to be a white lily among the torns when I read Authentic Beauty book.
Thanks God...on May 10th was the time we started our relationship.
This was beginning for His mission to use our relationship for His glory and blessing for people surround us....
Friday, May 05, 2006
FAITHFULLY
Tonight I saw a shooting star
Made me wonder where you are
For years I have been dreaming of you
And I wonder if you're thinking of me, too.
In this world of cheap romance
And love that only fades after the dance
They say that I'm a fool to wait for something more
How can I really love someone I've never seen before?
But I have longed for true love everyday that I have lived,
and I know real love is all about learning how to give
So I pray that God will bring you to me,
And I pray you'll find me waiting faithfully
Faithfully, I am yours
From now until forever
Faithfully, I will write
Write you a love song with my life
'Cause this kind of love's worth waiting for
No matter how long it takes
I am yours faithfully
Tonight I saw two lovers kiss
Reminded me of my own loneliness
They say that I'm a fool to keep on praying for you
How can I give up pleasure for a dream that won't come true?
But I will keep believing that God has still has a plan
And though I cannot see you now, I know that He can
And someday I will give you all of me
Until I find you, I'll be waiting faithfully
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